Monday, March 28, 2011

Bad News

My sister lost her baby. She went in for what was supposed to be her first OB appointment and discovered that the baby had stopped growing about a week ago. She stopped her progesterone and opted to try to not have the D&E. Last night was when the miscarriage started.

I think the hardest thing is know what to say. I hate that she is going through this. I hate that anyone has to go through it. I will never understand losing a baby.
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4 comments:

  1. someday-soonMarch 28, 2011 at 4:51 PM

    Oh no! I'm so sorry {{{HUGS}}}

    There is nothing to say except that you're always there if she needs to talk and that you are so, so sorry. My thoughts are with her, her DH, you and the rest of your family!

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  2. RebeccaMarch 28, 2011 at 5:30 PM

    Oh, no. I'm so, so sorry. This is horrible.

    I agree with s-s. The only thing you can say is how sorry you are for her and to be there for her. I'd say the most important thing is to continue to be there for her and let her know you are. I know that people IRL who seem to have "forgotten" that I had a m/c or who say it's "for the best" are the ones that are most hurtful.

    I know you'd never be that way, of course. But, really, those are the only things that hurt. Otherwise, just the recognition that something important has happened is what matters.

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  3. WendyMarch 28, 2011 at 9:10 PM

    that is so so sad and I am so sorry your sister is going through this right now. Being there for her is all you can do as sometimes words can't help the pain she is experiencing. Be strong for her and make sure you let her know that if being around your boys is too painful too soon, then it's totally ok and to take her time.

    I remembered that when I had my first m/c, I received a lovely bouquet from some friends but I had to throw it out because everytime I looked at it, it reminded me of my lost lil' pea. Not sure if she would feel the same way but fyi just in case. (hugs)

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  4. UnknownMarch 29, 2011 at 10:35 AM

    Oh, no! :( How awful for her, and for you all! A good friend of mine recently had a m/c and it's been interesting have our roles reversed....I do mention to her often that I am thinking about her and will never forget and she tells me she really appreciates it.
    HUGS to her and to you as you grieve with her!

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