A little stressed

I work from home part time for the same company (and department) as my mother. Next week the team is having a two-day meeting. This means I would have to take all three kids up with me on the five hour trip. The boys will sleep like crap and the baby isn't sleeping all night. While I'm there my sister has offered to watch the kids with her husband. So I'll have to take them to her house 30 minutes away each day and of course they'll want us to stay after work.

Last time I went home it was a disaster. It took over six hours to get there and the crappy sleep schedule made the boys have some super tantrums which my father can't handle (because all kids should be perfect all of the time). It was so bad I almost left a day early because I was tired of the judgement.

My mom will tell me she'll help, but she'll eventually get tired of it and I'll be doing everything. I'm six weeks post baby this week and I'm just exhausted and stressed. My mother is guilt tripping me about me keeping my job if I don't go. I have never turned down a trip. I have made several alone with the boys and I don't want my job to think I'm a slacker.

The hubs recommended I email my boss to find out her expectations.

But I still will have to be home February 9 for my sister's baby shower which my husband could attend and it would only be a weekend instead of six since I would have to stay all week through the weekend for the shower. I would leave right after the shower if that's the case.

The only plus is that I would get paid for my travel if I went to the meetings. Ugh! Any thoughts/advice. This seems petty, but I'm seriously stressed!