Mr. W and I have only told our immediate families about the babies (well, I think the Mr. has told a few more people than that, but I’ll let it slide). My family knew we were doing treatments since they knew we started trying after our wedding with no success. Mr. W’s family doesn’t know and that’s fine with me. I don’t think he really wanted to bring them into our bedroom (or doctor’s office).
Now that they know it is twins it’s funny to see how everyone is trying to figure out if twins “run in the family.” My super fertile SIL pretty much just came out and asked if we took fertility drugs, but I just told her no. I sort of feel like she’s trying to compete with me and I just didn’t want to give her more ammo to be better than me. We all know she can make babies easily enough. I’ll just let here think whatever she wants to about me.
I did tell my supervisor just so she could know why I’ve had so many appointments recently. I didn’t want her to get suspicious. When I told her that we might be having two she asked if we had fertility treatments. It surprises me how that is everyone’s first reaction upon hearing the twin announcement. I told her the truth. I really don’t have anything to hide (except for the scenario mentioned above).
Of course my mother also told her job (shocker!). She even had a cake made to announce it. I think my mom and sister talk about it more to each other though because I found out about the cake through my sister, not my mother. In fact, I haven’t talked to her since they came to visit the other weekend. I’m always the one to call her and connect with her while she only sends me forwarded emails. I’m done. The phones work both ways.
In bean and bear news, I need to stay away from g.oogle. I have my next u/s on Friday and searching vanishing twin syndrome really doesn’t help things. There are always about 25 good stories, but then I always see a few bad ones and I just need to not look up these things. I have zero control over what happens and I just want the faith that everyone in my life seems to have as they tell everyone around them the good news. I’m still holding off until 13 weeks, maybe longer.
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How fun to share the news! Good luck Friday.
ReplyDeleteSo happy you let the cats out of the bag =) People are so odd with their reactions, most are wonderful and then a few are just down right strange. Like you SIL, who competes over fertility...really?!?! I understand getting away from Dr. G.oogle, it's too much sometimes. GL at your u/s Friday, can't wait to hear about it!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you got to share the news. What an exciting time. That's crazy about your SIL, though. Mine is like that, too, so I can relate. :) Good luck at your u/s this Friday. I hope you get another peek at your two little beans!
ReplyDeleteIt really is crazy how different people react. Some people seem to make it a little too much their business...
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to hear about the u/s on Friday!
I could have written that myself! Wow your story sounds so much like mine. My parents knew we were having problems but we didn't tell my in-laws. That don't need to know about our private life and our struggles with having a baby, especially my SIL! Some people have asked me if we need treatments and I have given different answers. Some people are just being nosy so I say no and that they run in my family (which is true). Other people I'll tell the truth. It is completely up to you what you want to share and don't want to share. Just because you went through IF challenges does not mean you have to share your story with the world.
ReplyDeleteThe whole vanishing twin thing worried me a lot but the chances are low after you've seen a heartbeat.